A few weeks ago, I wrote about the guy who rolled his eyes at me.
Here’s the flip side of what his eye-rolling brought me:
Someone is not going to like what you have to say. Say it anyway.
As an introvert, I know how easy it is to retreat to the corner – or to never enter the room at all.
For years, I avoided social events and entire relationships based on ideas like:
– that event will be too noisy, so I’m not going.
– he isn’t ________ enough to love me, so I’m not calling back.
– this topic is too intimate to share with strangers, so I’ll keep quiet.
And sometimes, all of these things were (and are) 100% true, but the problem is that when this kind of thinking becomes our default, we miss the one or two meaningful opportunities to express ourselves because we mistook them for the kind of events or people we rightfully should leave alone.
So we don’t speak up. We don’t ask for what we want. We don’t share our opinion. We stay silent and unseen. And we miss out.
While someone is rolling their eyes at you, you could be healing years of painful conditioning. Forgiving people you’ve been angry at for decades. Clearing space in your heart for more love, more abundance, more joy.
Don’t nix all that because some dude or dudette doesn’t like what you have to say. Their eye-rolling, or snarky comments or awkward facial expression says far more about what’s happening for them than you.
And here’s the other thing about speaking up:
When the event was over, folks were mingling and a lady in a purple sweater wandered up to the group I was talking to. Her body was turned directly toward me but she seemed hesitant to make eye contact.
I introduced myself. Immediately, she gushed about how grateful she was that I’d shared what I did. This was a pattern in her life too, she said, and hearing me express myself had been helpful for her.
When you speak up, your courage ripples out and touches other hearts too.
Even if they don’t come up to you and say so directly, and even if their stoic faces never reveal their true emotional reaction, you never know who needed to hear your words. You never know who needed your smile, your handshake or just your sincere, eye contact.
Speak up. Show up.
Someone in the room is not going to like it. Do it for those of us who will. Do it for yourself.