When relationships end, everyone walks away with a story.
Each person has their version of why it happened, who did what, what their motivations were, who was a good heart and who was a doucheface. Each person has their own Truth.
And if you're a people pleaser (as most women have been socialized to be) and you've discovered that the other person thinks you were the doucheface, you'll probably be tempted to do everything in your power to change their story.
We want their story to approve of our choices. We want their story to be nice to us.
But here's the hurt, love:
We have to let other people have whatever story they want.
Trying to control their perspective by reminding them of that conversation, pointing out the contradictions, or showing them any kind of 'evidence' that proves we were...