Self-love should be a hula-hoop girl covered in roses and rainbows, right?
Maybe. But for a lot of us, she's not.
Often, being tender with yourself is the absolute last thing you want to do right after you put your foot in your mouth, hurt someone's feelings, or dropped the ball in some way.
In those moments, drain-circling thoughts prevail and sweet, compassionate self-love is nowhere in sight.
This is the part that usually gets missed in the self-love conversation: A lot of the time, loving yourself is HARD.
It's hard because for most of us, it's not an automatic response -- anymore. Self-love was natural once, but most of us were vaccinated out of it.
Families of origin, school systems, the corporations we work for and the ones we give our money and attention to, have helped to systematically remove our natural predisposition to lead with lovelovelove. Instead, we've been taught to chase the carrot of Good Enoughness.